Consider two young, faithful, Catholics who have yet to discover their vocations.

The first is surrounded by positivity—her mother and father, teachers and parents of friends at her parish, live out their marriages with joy; her parish priest exudes friendliness and happiness; and sisters at her school are probably the most vibrant and joyful people she knows. So everywhere she looks, she sees people happily living out their vocations.

The second is surrounded by negativity—his parents often fight, his parish priest exudes melancholy and somberness, and the sisters he knows are stern and unfriendly. Everywhere he looks, it seems like people are burdened by their vocations.

It’s easy to guess how each one's discernment will go. The first can see that God has a plan for everyone, and that discerning that plan can—and will—bring joy.

The second may feel burdened by the process of discernment. He may even be discouraged from even trying to discern his vocation altogether, if he comes to realize he’s being called at all.

Obviously, both examples are extreme. The happiest lives have rough patches, and the sternest of people are capable of revealing God’s love through their actions and mannerisms.

But the point of this exercise is to emphasize that you are an example to those who are still searching for God’s call, no matter what. Of course you’re being looked upon for advice and guidance, but you’re also looked upon as an example of your vocation.

It’s often said that when you sit down for a meal, “you first eat with your eyes.” When a plate of food is put in front of you, the first thing you do is look at it. You’re already making assumptions about how good it’s going to taste.

Similarly, before young people discern their vocations, they see others living out theirs. The more real joy they see, the more enthusiastic they’ll be about beginning their own discernment!

When you’re around discerners ( and when you’re not!) be sure to vocally thank God for calling you to your vocation. Praise Him for the joy it’s brought you.

Your vocation isn’t just God’s Call for you. It’s His gift to you, and His gift to others through you. Show it, and people, including discerners, will notice. As the psalmist wrote: