St. Ignatius of Loyola, priest and founder of the Jesuits, has become somewhat of the go-to saint when it comes to discernment.
1. I don’t know where God is calling me. Where do I start?
Let’s ponder the St. Ignatius Prayer to Know God’s Will:
May it please the supreme and divine Goodness
to give us all abundant grace
ever to know his most holy will
and perfectly to fulfill it.
This small prayer says it all. You can’t discern your vocation without first choosing to follow Jesus Christ. “Man is created to praise, reverence, and serve God our Lord, and by this means to save his soul,” St. Ignatius tells us, and we should want and choose, “only what is most conducive for us to the end for which we are created.”
Any young person discerning his vocation should begin as a faithful disciple.
2. I think I am called to the priesthood, but won’t I be unhappy without a family?
Although the Church teaches us that there exists in all of us a natural desire for marriage and have a family, some are called to a life of celibacy and priesthood. The two should be discerned together. The call and grace to celibacy is because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the kingdom of God. The call to priesthood and celibacy is a call to a deep joy. Prayer and discernment are a good way to approach this question.”
St. Ignatius, though, looks at it another way. If one is feeling a call to the priesthood and the desire to marry, one should require much more clarity in discerning marriage, than in discerning priestly or religious life.
"If a person thinks of embracing a secular life,” St. Ignatius wrote, “he should ask and desire more evident signs that God calls him to a secular life, than if there was question of embracing the evangelical counsels; for Our Lord Himself has evidently exhorted us to embrace His counsels."
3. How do I know I’m following God’s will?
St. Ignatius teaches us a great deal about “discernment of the spirits,” using“consolation and desolation.”
Consolation includes feelings like joy, love and peace, and are usually the work of “good spirits”; and desolation brings feelings like doubt, sadness and disgust and are usually the work of“bad” spirits—this is true when in a state of grace and seeking God’s Will.
The inverse can be true, if, for instance, you are being tempted to sin. The “bad spirits”can cause consolation to encourage you away from God, and the “good spirits” can cause desolation to lead you away from temptation.
This method of discernment can be useful, and the website http://www.ignatianspirituality.com/ is a great resource for a discerner who wants to know more about these topics, as well as those who are being asked.
No matter the question, the No. 1 piece of advice St. Ignatius (and all the saints!) would offer, is this: Seek God’s Will.
